How many times a day does your inner green-eyed monster creep out when you see someone on Instagram posting yet another photo of their incredibly blessed lives?
Firstly, let me tell you something. We never, ever post a photo of something showing the rubbish parts of our lives. Remember the time the washing machine flooded at the same time as the cat climbed in the bin and then walked all over your nice clean bedding? Maybe that’s just me.
Anyway, the point is, we are living in a world surrounded by other people’s perfection rammed down our throats at every opportunity, so it’s easy to find yourself asking; “What is the meaning of life? Is it going on six holidays a year, looking like someone straight out of the centrefold of Vogue and managing a top level career at the same time?”
We all live in a world where we wish and yearn for our dreams to come true, but it’s season to gradually become ‘realistic’ and learn to settle. Over time, we can start to lose our zest for life. To me, that sounds like absolute hell. Enter Carole Ann Rice. The Queen of Life Coaches. She knows all about the importance of shaking your doldrums.
Here are her top five signs you’re not fully embracing your life and how you should go about rectifying them immediately. Preferably with a Gin and Tonic. (I added that last part. Just so she doesn’t sue me).
1. Your comfort zone is anything but comforting
Ensconcing yourself from your dreams for the sake of ‘comfort’ involves learning to expect the worst from life. This allows us to avoid disappointment. The sense of suffocation from living in your comfort zone (it practically charges you rent now) does more harm than good.
Solution – Try something new: It could be as simple as going home via another route, buying different clothes, drinking different things, or dining at a restaurant you’ve had pinned for months. Shake things up gradually and you’ll grow from there.
2. You’re stuck in a rut
Thumbing through your Facebook feed, you feel everyone is living their best life but you. You know you should feel grateful for the things you have, but you feel everyone is speeding ahead in the rat race of life.
Solution – Challenge yourself: Plan to do something different which breaks-up your routine and challenges your own perception of yourself. Sign-up to a marathon, learn a new language or pick-up an instrument. Find new passions and interests to reinvigorate your daily life.
3. You look back on your life and feel you haven’t achieved anything
It’s all too easy to side-bar your own dreams and give them a permanent residency on the backburner.
Solution – Get a life coach: Welcome someone who is armed with the tools you desperately need to hit the refresh button on your life. They can offer you the guidance and strength to find your greater purpose in life and rekindle your aspirations.
4. You watch the days drift by
The feeling of disconnection and discomfort can make anyone feel misaligned from the daily rhythm of life. Playing it safe has become the go-to and wanting something more than what you have makes you feel uncertain.
Solution – Think of your dying day: What would you do on your final day on this Earth? Who would you see? What would you do? What do you want to have achieved? These questions allow us to figure what is important in our lives and set the goals to make this happen.
5. You have zero motivation
The weather forecast might be sunny, but it always feels grey and overcast.
Solution – Get over your fear: Remember, a desire to live well and achieve dreams is more important than the fear of not trying new things.
Carole Ann Rice from Real Coaching Co is one of the UK’s leading life coaches and personal development experts. She helps people all around the world discover the best version of themselves. Much of her work involves focusing on the here and now and is different to what you may experience in therapy.